The Fear of Failure

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The other day I was sitting on my couch surfing the net and I thought about something- the fear of failure. Like a lot of people, the fear of failing is something that I feel sometimes holds me back, governs the choices I make and the manner I do things in and all in all – diminishes your sparkle.

I actually came across an interesting article about this fear on a website called Addicted2Success. Thought I would share it with you as at one point or another we have all experienced this fear. It goes as follows:

< This fear deserves the top spot because it rules over all our actions and decisions, we all do and don’t do things in order to avoid failure. Failure can be a lot of things; realizing you don’t live your life the way you wanted to, not succeeding in your plans, finding yourself helpless, or in the worst cases even hitting rock-bottom.

Failure is a very ambiguous and subjective term because failure is not on the same level and perspective to everyone, what counts as failure to one might not be even halfway there to another. To some, failure is actually a way to learn lessons and try again, so it is not really an end, but a tool for future reference. The main fear of failing comes with the disappointment that follows, that feeling that despite your effort, nothing seemed to go as you wished it did, and it causes a feeling like you might not even want to try again. That is why this is the worst fear of all, the fear or failure is very often used as an excuse to procrastinate or not do anything to make situations better – “why bother?” and “I’m just not good enough”. >


So, if there is something out there that you want to do or something you want to achieve, big or small, realistic or not- I urge you all to put aside your fear of failure, and – just do it.


I’ve always loved Nikes slogan: “Just do it”. There’s something so free about it.

CleopatraX


Gelish Me

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A lot has happened in the past week and so blogging has been last on my list. I’m not going to get too personal but in short my baby sister was in a terrible car accident and has been in ICU since. It was a miracle that she survived and for that I want to say two things- miracles do happen, and, appreciate your loved ones and EVERY DAY that goes by, because life is so fragile and everything can change in a flash.

Onto more trivial things… Lets talk about a thing called Gelish. I’ve been getting Gelish done for about a year now. It’s basically a gel nail polish that once on your nails ‘sets’ when you put it under a LED light. I’m very OCD when it’s comes to nails and as soon as there’s a chip (which is usually after a day or so) – I remove it. This genius creation lasts for up to 3 weeks AND leaves your nails look glossy and well-groomed.

“You can tell a lot from a person’s nails. When a life starts to unravel, they’re among the first to go.”

 1. CLASSIC – French Manicure 

 2. FUN – Ring Nail Trend 

 3. TIMELESS – Red Nails 

 Where? 
I go to Spoilt Nails (it’s also a hair salon) on Greenpoint Main Road (next to Vida & Hudsons). It’s not badly priced compare to other salons, they groom (file, wash, buff, treat) your nails too and sometimes even throw in a sneaky hand massage. They use the brand called Harmony at Spoiltbut different salons use different types e.g.. Shellac.

They will warn you, however, not to peel the Gelish off you nails (as tempted as you’ll be) as it will remove about 3 layers of your nail bed! DO NOT DO IT. You have to go and have them soaked off which is a pain sometimes but totally worth it and you can just get them reapplied. Pictures and price list below. 

At Spoilt Nails salon

Bag- Aldo. Sneaker wedges- Promod. Leather velt jacket- H&M. Tights- Woolworths.
‘Rendez-vous’, the latest colour I chose
CleopatraX

Gelish Me

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A lot has happened in the past week and so blogging has been last on my list. I’m not going to get too personal but in short my baby sister was in a terrible car accident and has been in ICU since. It was a miracle that she survived and for that I want to say two things- miracles do happen, and, appreciate your loved ones and EVERY DAY that goes by, because life is so fragile and everything can change in a flash.

Onto more trivial things… Lets talk about a thing called Gelish. I’ve been getting Gelish done for about a year now. It’s basically a gel nail polish that once on your nails ‘sets’ when you put it under a LED light. I’m very OCD when it’s comes to nails and as soon as there’s a chip (which is usually after a day or so) – I remove it. This genius creation lasts for up to 3 weeks AND leaves your nails look glossy and well-groomed.

“You can tell a lot from a person’s nails. When a life starts to unravel, they’re among the first to go.”

 1. CLASSIC – French Manicure 

 2. FUN – Ring Nail Trend 

 3. TIMELESS – Red Nails 

 Where? 
I go to Spoilt Nails (it’s also a hair salon) on Greenpoint Main Road (next to Vida & Hudsons). It’s not badly priced compare to other salons, they groom (file, wash, buff, treat) your nails too and sometimes even throw in a sneaky hand massage. They use the brand called Harmony at Spoiltbut different salons use different types e.g.. Shellac.

They will warn you, however, not to peel the Gelish off you nails (as tempted as you’ll be) as it will remove about 3 layers of your nail bed! DO NOT DO IT. You have to go and have them soaked off which is a pain sometimes but totally worth it and you can just get them reapplied. Pictures and price list below. 

At Spoilt Nails salon

Bag- Aldo. Sneaker wedges- Promod. Leather velt jacket- H&M. Tights- Woolworths.
‘Rendez-vous’, the latest colour I chose
CleopatraX

La Petite Tarte

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Yesterday I went to a lovely French bistro called La Petite Tarte on the left side of Cape Quarter (by the  old Cape Quarter in town) for lunch. It’s owned by two men, one who is an ex art teacher and so the decor is chic and very Parisian. They have such nice healthy options like delicious salads and quiches- I had the smoked chicken and avo salad. They have a lovely array of wines and great coffee. Afterwards I indulged in a lemon meringue pie! Definitely a tasty choice. I recommend going there with your lady friends for lunch. I wore a dress I bought from a market in Thailand with open shoulders, a snood from H&M, a belt from a vintage market, Aldo bag and black heeled boots. Slowly getting back into this winter weather after 40 degree weather in Bangkok!

The lovely double ring is from TOPSHOP and my nails are Gelish. I chose a mauve brown colour which is great for winter and I thought I would try the ‘ring finger’ nail trend with a shade of gold. Think the two colours look great together. 

Ring with crosses- Topshop
Nails- Gelish

CleopatraX

La Petite Tarte

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Yesterday I went to a lovely French bistro called La Petite Tarte on the left side of Cape Quarter (by the  old Cape Quarter in town) for lunch. It’s owned by two men, one who is an ex art teacher and so the decor is chic and very Parisian. They have such nice healthy options like delicious salads and quiches- I had the smoked chicken and avo salad. They have a lovely array of wines and great coffee. Afterwards I indulged in a lemon meringue pie! Definitely a tasty choice. I recommend going there with your lady friends for lunch. I wore a dress I bought from a market in Thailand with open shoulders, a snood from H&M, a belt from a vintage market, Aldo bag and black heeled boots. Slowly getting back into this winter weather after 40 degree weather in Bangkok!

The lovely double ring is from TOPSHOP and my nails are Gelish. I chose a mauve brown colour which is great for winter and I thought I would try the ‘ring finger’ nail trend with a shade of gold. Think the two colours look great together. 

Ring with crosses- Topshop
Nails- Gelish

CleopatraX

3 Transforming Beauty Secrets

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1. The Vinegar trick 

     Tried and tested by my whole family and many of my friends, this one always gets people wrinkling up their noses when I tell them about it. However, it WORKS so well I can tell if my mom has done the vinegar trick as soon as she totters out of her bedroom hair looking bright, healthy, shiny and glossy- you name it. 

Rinsing with apple cider vinegar will help balance the pH level of your hair & remove the buildup that can result from the use of these styling products, shampoo & conditioner.


Directions: 
-Put 3 tables spoons of white apple cider vinegar into a glass & fill the rest of the glass to the top with water. 
-Wash and condition your hair and then after rinsing apply the concoction onto your hair.
-Massage your scalp for 30 sec and then rinse well (so your hair doesn’t end up smelling like vinegar). After blow-drying your hair you should see results.

2. Eye lash queen 

I’m a bit lashes obsessed; I take longer putting on mascara than doing my hair every morning. Unless you have Adrianna Lima eyelashes, every girl should own an eyelash curler. It’s the best thing since the olive depip-er.  Use it before you do your mascara as it can pull your lashes out if you use it after.
Also for extra effect: use the end of the mascara wand to put mascara of the TIPS of your lashes. Do this after the first coat of mascara has dried. This works so well! Then ta-da long lashes.

My 3 all time favourite mascaras:

 1. BARGAIN  
Essence is a very good inexpensive German make up brand. I’m actually using this ‘Get Big Lashes’ mascara at the moment, it really works amazingly! And it costs like R50 ($7), crazy.

 2. AFFORDABLE  
An all time favourite, Maybelline’s best- One by One Volume Express.

 3. SPLURGE  
Every girl needs to own one of these in her lifetime, even though its not every day we can buy R400-R500 (approx. $50) mascara.

3. Highlight ‘must’ Areas 

A quick make up trick to look bright and glowing in the morning- Dab some light highlighting eye shadow in the corner of each eye by your tear duct, under the arch of your eyebrows towards your hairline and just above your check bone. I use a light goldy white colour from the Body Shop’s shimmer waves. I do it everyday and it really makes a difference (especially if you look tired).

Applying all three beauty secrets…

The pink circles the 3 main areas I highlight- the tear duct, upper cheekbone & under arch of the eyebrow.
And the end result….ta-da!
Let me know your results!
CleopatraX

3 Transforming Beauty Secrets

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1. The Vinegar trick 

     Tried and tested by my whole family and many of my friends, this one always gets people wrinkling up their noses when I tell them about it. However, it WORKS so well I can tell if my mom has done the vinegar trick as soon as she totters out of her bedroom hair looking bright, healthy, shiny and glossy- you name it. 

Rinsing with apple cider vinegar will help balance the pH level of your hair & remove the buildup that can result from the use of these styling products, shampoo & conditioner.


Directions: 
-Put 3 tables spoons of white apple cider vinegar into a glass & fill the rest of the glass to the top with water. 
-Wash and condition your hair and then after rinsing apply the concoction onto your hair.
-Massage your scalp for 30 sec and then rinse well (so your hair doesn’t end up smelling like vinegar). After blow-drying your hair you should see results.

2. Eye lash queen 

I’m a bit lashes obsessed; I take longer putting on mascara than doing my hair every morning. Unless you have Adrianna Lima eyelashes, every girl should own an eyelash curler. It’s the best thing since the olive depip-er.  Use it before you do your mascara as it can pull your lashes out if you use it after.
Also for extra effect: use the end of the mascara wand to put mascara of the TIPS of your lashes. Do this after the first coat of mascara has dried. This works so well! Then ta-da long lashes.

My 3 all time favourite mascaras:

 1. BARGAIN  
Essence is a very good inexpensive German make up brand. I’m actually using this ‘Get Big Lashes’ mascara at the moment, it really works amazingly! And it costs like R50 ($7), crazy.

 2. AFFORDABLE  
An all time favourite, Maybelline’s best- One by One Volume Express.

 3. SPLURGE  
Every girl needs to own one of these in her lifetime, even though its not every day we can buy R400-R500 (approx. $50) mascara.

3. Highlight ‘must’ Areas 

A quick make up trick to look bright and glowing in the morning- Dab some light highlighting eye shadow in the corner of each eye by your tear duct, under the arch of your eyebrows towards your hairline and just above your check bone. I use a light goldy white colour from the Body Shop’s shimmer waves. I do it everyday and it really makes a difference (especially if you look tired).

Applying all three beauty secrets…

The pink circles the 3 main areas I highlight- the tear duct, upper cheekbone & under arch of the eyebrow.
And the end result….ta-da!
Let me know your results!
CleopatraX

RUN BKK!

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Today I leave the amazingly addictive city that I have been living in for the past 4 months and have pretty much fallen in love with. Sure, I am excited to go back home and see my family, friends, dogs and just good old Cape Town, but damn I’m going to miss my life here….


Bangkok scares some, overwhelms others…and for those who pop in for a night or two before setting off on their island trip it may be too chaotic, wild and insane… However, give it a week, 2 weeks, 3 weeks…and it will suck you right in. In the most famous words “Bangkok has taken them” (Hangover 2).

Some of the things that stole my heart: the delicious street food (it’s a way of life here and the Thais take the utmost pride in preparing it) especially The Purple People!, of course the weird and wonderful and WIDE variety of smells as you walk down the street, public transport- especially motorbike taxis and their weaving between the tiniest spaces with such precision, food: green curry, panang curry, stir fry and sweet basil, Tom Yum gai, lemon grass and ginger, the fact that you can buy anything and everything your heart desires on good old Pradiphat road, the best street banana and Nutella pancakes, markets, the insane malls, the Magnum cafe, Levels, the odd monk casually strolling down the road, Hong Thong (still not 100% sure what type of alcohol it is), Ladies Night, The Roof on Koh Sahn for the best live entertainment in Bangkok, the heat, our amazing condo block- Lumpini Place, the BTS!, our amazing city view from the 28th floor, Mystics Cafe down the road for the best coffee & cashew nut chicken, the fact that there’s a 7/11 every few meters is crazy- but I will miss it, Firehouse for the best burgers I have yet to experience, working at BED Supperclub and the amazing team there, Siam, even the fact that you have to use charades so often because of the language barrier, living with my amazing roomie and best friend, and most importantly the amazing friends we have made over the past 4 months…..

HIGHLIGHTS:

December– Arriving, Hua Hin beach party for New Years Eve. Setting off lanterns.

January– Visiting a temple in Hua Hin and being blessed by a monk. Getting a job as kindergarten teacher at a good school. Moving to Bangkok. Moving into our new Condo block Lumpini Place. Meeting amazing people, exploring and discovering the city, shopping, nightlife and Thai culture. Our first pay check! Levels, The Roof, The Club and co. on Koh Sahn.

February– Kirst’s 21st crazy celebrations, Above11 sky bar, Sven Vath at BED Supperclub, massages, Jeffrey Campbell purchase, going to the POLO, Bombay Blues, Firehouse, Rambutree, end of year school play

March– End of job as kindergarten teacher, ISLAND HOLIDAY: (Koh Samui, Koh Tao, Krabi, Phi Phi) and our crazy adventures- swimming with black tip reef sharks, riding elephants, getting my first tattoo, the newlyweds, doing the fire limbo, meeting wonderful people along the way, Getting 3 part time jobs (2 as English tutor and one as hostess at BED Supperclub, Soi 11)

April– Starting jobs, making crazy friends including a lady boy, SONGKRAN (Thai New Years and huge water festival)- trip to Chiang Mai, petting tigers, crazy nights out, Asiatique waterfront, seeing Pendulum live at BED!!

All I can say is that we couldn’t have had a better experience in Bangkok if we tried… Ready for the next adventure!

CleopatraX